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Natalia Levis-Fox “Secret
of Healing Jealousy”
2010©Natalia Levis-Fox ISBN: 978-1-4461-9503-1
The Secret of Love & Sexuality is yours. That is why this book is a simple and elegant solution to your problem of jealousy. You feel good, nice and healthy. When you decide to create any quality and make your life a fantastic adventure, apply the Love Formula. Fill its components with desired features, sing the formula for several days and you get what you want!
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Table of contents Foreword ……………………………………………..
5
Chapter I: Without Intelligence You Are An Obedient Social Animal With A Foreign Mind …
10
A strong will ………………………………….. 10 The power of personal testing …………… 15 Experiment 1 ………………………………….
15
Strategies of winners ………………………...
18
Experiment 2 …………………………………..
18
To give up struggle …………………………..
21
Chapter II: Feeling Good…………………………
28
Very useful phrases ………………………….
28
Your brain at feeling good …………………
32
The quickest method of feeling good ……
36
Chapter III: New nice habits……………………...
39
Make the best decision in your life ………
39
Start loving Yourself ……………………….
42
Celebrate every little thing that makes you feeling good ……………………………………
42
Method …………………………………………
46
Experiment 3 …………………………………
47
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Jealousy in brain …………………………..….
51
Method for a Brilliantly Intelligent You ……
54
Chapter IV: The new YOU with nice habits…….
59
Drinks ………………………………………….
59
Bath ……………………………………………
64
Candles …………………………………………
67
Your living and working space of Love ….
69
Gifts for yourself and others ………………
71
Jewelry …………………………………………
72
Start being generous …………………………
74
SMS………………………………………………
76
Chapter V: Nice Healthy Habits for Your Body
78
Take a Deep Breath ………………………….
78
Stretching ……………………………………..
85
Forget about forcing yourself! ....................
94
Mirror neurons, actions and humor ………
96
Have a Hug ……………………………………
99
Feel the physical support ………………….
100
Chapter VI: Your intelligent entertainment skills ………………………………………………….
114
Playing with images …………………………
114
The practical use of creating images …….
108
Chapter VII: Creation………………………………
112
Structure of jealousy ……………………….
112
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Body and mind are systems……………….
114
A nice and sexy method with imagination
123
For gentlemen ……………………………….
124
For ladies….…………………………………..
130
Chapter VIII: The Love Formula…………………
145
We learn by entertaining ……………………
145
The Nature of Love ………………………….
147
The magical circle …………………………..
151
Your own concept of Love …………………
153
The power of abstract concepts in your
155
life ………………………………………………. The Love Formula ……………………………
157
The importance of training and repetition .
162
Brain and new experience ………………….
166
Chapter IX: Conclusions…………………………... References……………………………………
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All the roads lead to the Divine Unknown author
Foreword
Just before sending the manuscript of this ebook to the Publisher, one thing became pretty obvious. I haven’t made a single mistake in my life up to this moment, except for spelling. I don’t steal, I follow the street traffic rules and I never kill or rob people in the streets. So why should feel guilty for my own way1 in life? What shall I forgive myself for?
This book is a very simple solution to the “problem” of jealousy due to the Love Formula. I had to develop it for myself to jump off this sticking feeling. So the book is filled with my own knowledge
based
on
personal
experience,
scientific research and wisdom of those great people who were love and truth seekers like me. It was written to assist YOU in feeling good, no
1
“Way” is not a rout or a road. It’s a life style, answering the question “How?”; “How Do I live?” – “With high quality!”
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matter what outer circumstances are. One thing I know for sure: jealousy is profitable! It urges you to become better, sexier and wanting more of life.
And it’s is absolutely clear that without love and sex intelligence you are nothing but a primitive pig. Look at the image below.
Eating-being
You can be a highly paid professional, proud of your achievements, yourself and kids, social status and on, and on, and on.
But without physical love and sexual physical energy you are empty like this empty dress.
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There is a dress, but there is no YOU to make this dress beautiful. Or does the dress make you more beautiful?
You won’t find testimonials here, praising this book, because only silly and primitive people need somebody else’s opinions. Since you are reading these lines, then you’re seeking for intelligence and a high quality of life of a very sexy person. Nobody adores and likes you until you are physically sexy and authentically charming! Age has nothing to do with sexuality and love. Because “age” is just nothing but a foreign concept. It is an idea, shared and supported by people. Do you want to be
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authentically loved or valued? Then take for granted a very simple formula:
Without sexy energy, intelligence and seeking for challenges your brain stops developing. You become an imbecile. With sexy energy which is the physical feeder of life which we are going to create with you – even your clothes become attractive.
Right?
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Without love and sexy energy in your body all your tricks to attract attention are ridiculous.
“I’ll teach you how to live”
Do you recognize anybody who reminds you of this concept? It’s painless, nice and funny with illustrations, is it not?
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Chapter I: Without Intelligence You Are an Obedient Social Animal with a Foreign Mind A strong will I’m rich, very rich. This wonderful sensation is incomplete without love, sex drive, adventure, and being loved to complete satisfaction. Fortunately, satisfaction
is
a
one-act-process.
When
you
experience it – you are high. Then you forget about it, as your attention shifts to something else. You can’t be happy for 24 hours a day. Long lasting happiness and satisfaction make you stupid.
All my life I was after discovering the secrets of being, meaning of life and getting rid of those garbage concepts, which prevented from being happy. Following this way, I’d made a lot of “mistakes”. This is how my parents made think about my own experience. Those “mistakes” had almost killed me physically. But I’m still alive
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because I never gave up. I was sure that life is a fight. And I was proud of my will. Fighting and resisting the past unpleasant memories brought physical pain.
I made an extensive scientific research covering spheres of Cognitive Psychology, Neurobiology, Neurophysiology, etc. This is what I’ve found: ‘will’ as “strength” i.e. “a strong will” is the main source of physical pain!
You hold life with a strong will because you’re afraid to loose it!
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When you started to cultivate this “strong will”, you were scared to be controlled by somebody else thus preventing any intrusion into your life. You tried to protect your freedom, your inner world and what you loved. Usually this process begins out of desperation due to the desire to be appreciated as well as loved by others. “Will” is a frantic trial to hide the fear to loose what is treasured by each of us.
The horrible aspect of this experience is that we cling to whom we like, love and value. What is worse – we start controlling them ourselves by interfering into their personal space of freedom!
Life flows freely like beautiful clouds in the sky. It never belongs to anybody.
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Are we capable of stopping or controlling the clouds? Life can also be compared to a river filled with a flow of love energy - the cause and the essence of our being.
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Being proud of personal control over life (as the vital process of being), weight, face expressions, feelings, satisfaction
sensations, (expressed
sexuality, freely),
we
love
and
practically
prevent the flow of vital energy from making us beautiful, handsome and loved.
Will and pride fix old problems like cement. You can easily test this effect immediately.
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The power of personal testing Experiment 1
Take a book (telephone, or any other object) in your left hand. Clench your right hand into the fist and hold it for 30 seconds with the maximum strength.
Then open it. How does it feel? Revealed and relaxed?
Did you do the experiment immediately? Or did you hesitate before trying? Or did you ignore it?
In each case it was your decision to check or not to test out the truth. The decision to check physically if something is true or false is the expression of your will through the testing system. This testing system belongs to you. If you are not the initiator of checking, testing or investigating physically, then somebody else will do it for you, by ordering. In other words, you will be guided by authorities or
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gurus, leaders, TV, mass media, advertisements, etc.
Physical world is tested experimentally through sensory systems by touching, smelling, seeing, hearing, tasting. If you don’t test the environment by hearing, smelling, touching, seeing and tasting, your body is weak. If you don’t hear birds singing or chattering, and your feet remember only the comfort of your shoes instead of mud or grass; you see the world through your computer screen and get sexual satisfaction by playing virtual games thought web camera2
– then your great healthy
Nature is sentenced to die. You grow physically old.
Components of the world of intelligence - “mental world”
–
are
tested
through
dictionaries,
encyclopedias by verifying the precise meaning of words, notions and phenomena which you use to understand the outer world and act accordingly. The truth is what makes you feel good.
2
One in ten adults in the USA admits to internet sexual addiction: Link to Pornography Industry Revenue Statistics
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Did you know that “mind’ is wordless? It’s YOU who knows the words and applies them to express your own ideas, desires in accordance with current situations, i.e. on-line.
It’s YOU who runs your mind. Otherwise somebody else’s mind and foreign checking system would run and influence YOU.
Had it ever occurred to you that you have quite an unlimited number of worlds? Each word you know is the center of a world with a potential of enrichment! You know this owing to your magical nature of mind which expands in the physical external world. Your thoughts are mysteriously hidden from other people. Our thoughts are the shifts between concepts. They never interfere with thoughts of other people inhibiting our Earth. And it’s a generous God’s gift to each of us.
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Strategies of winners Experiment 2
Look at your computer.
You understand “computer” as a physical object, right? You don’t have to imagine computer because you know immediately what “computer” is.3 You have a well tested concept of computer which you have touched many times. Can you improve your computer immediately? No, if you are not a specialist. But you can either upgrade it or 3
Analogically, you know exactly what “Love” or, “Beingsexy” is. Or do you not? We’ll enrich your concepts later in this book.
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buy a new one. Before buying you recall the image of a better machine that you had seen somewhere before4.
You start enjoying “having a better computer” What did you do a moment before? - Dreamed with pleasure. Did the dreaming make you feel better? Do you feel like going out in search of the best computer for you all around the city you live in? Or did you search for the best models in Internet to make you feel better?
Going out to find “my best computer” instead of sitting at home and searching in Internet is the strategy of winners. Physically sexy people go out every day in search of potential partners, lovers and pleasure. They notice the best and enjoy the sensation. The sensation keeps you alive and sexy. Did
you
suspect
that
pleasure-seeking
is
absolutely normal? Then your guess was right: seeking
for
pleasure
and
better
life
and
environments and satisfaction is the main natural 4
You won’t believe but while I was writing these very lines, my husband was buying a new computer to me. Dreams come true!
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condition of improving spices (Prescott, 1975; Carter, 1998; Bartels & Zeki, 2004; Esch & Stefano, 2004; Salamon et al., 2005).
Winners’ formula
Sitting at home and searching in Internet instead of going out to find “my best computer” or a real partner, lover or a person to enjoy even visually – is a strategy of virtual life.
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What kind of kids are you going to give birth to by playing virtual games? Were you born for this kind of life filled with virtual adventures?
Virtual life formula
So, what happened to your mind after reading these lines? - Nothing. Because mind is nothing but an operative system within the outer world of external
physical
objects
and
people.
What
happened to your knowledge? Is it a little bit changed? Enriched by adding two more strategies in your understanding? Did this information drive you to useful conclusions about yourself? Do you feel like changing something in your life?
To give up struggle Have you ever thought that you head “thinks”? Congratulate yourself with the contrary! It’s YOU who thinks and changes the concepts about
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yourself and the external world. The head is just the upper part of your body. And brain is nothing but
an
organ
to
reflect
and
conduct
your
experience in the physical surroundings. You can see the objects, touch them, smell them, eat them, etc. Did you notice how kids put different objects into their mouths until they were prohibited to do so?
Your
brain
is
a
hardware
conducting
your
intellectual and physical activities through the body.
Colored lines are nerve fibers connecting different brain structures. They are wires that conduct impulses to execute actions and decisions
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You know what? Brain doesn’t think. It never distinguishes between physical and virtual worlds. It’s YOU who does the distinguishing intellectually!
This is how I finally gave the resistance up one day. You know what? The pain disappeared.
“To give up” literary means “to let the resistance and fight go to the upper levels of intelligence”.
When you give up struggle against fear of “being controlled”, you are flying, floating in the love of life. Love is the essence and the high quality of the boundless ocean of life
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Flying is better then thinking about power to influence other people, isn’t it?
It’s no use healing or improving the past. Isn’t it time to create your own sparkling authentic intelligence and enjoy life according to your rules? This is how leaders live. They never turn back. Thinking about past is a bad habit like biting nails. The truth is very simple. In order to experience past and suffer habitually, your organism must create earlier period conditions physically. It takes a lot of power.
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Intelligence itself is the source of floating because in colored circles you will insert your own concepts of wellness & success
Intelligence is a systematic knowledge about the outer world and how it works, relations including, on the one side. On the other – it’s the competence and skill to apply your knowledge whenever you decide to. Mind, intelligence, information and knowledge have no physical weight, form or a tendency to be stored! Moreover, they have neither physical space nor any activity without YOU. They
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are nothing without YOU. So it’s YOU who easily changes concepts about yourself and the world.
That is why this book is as light as feather.
Because it was written to make your life pleasant, full of comfort, love, sexuality and humor. That is why you’re no longer alone. Your gorgeous, genius and knowing-all-Nature is with you.
While you’re reading these comforting lines, beautiful tiny brain cells – microglia – are already repairing neurons damaged by the “fight” against circumstances, unpleasant emotions and what not.
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Microglia (red) heal and feed neurons (green) day and night
Do you want more proofs? Go and find the scientifically proved information in Internet which will satisfy YOU completely5.
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If my recommendations have any value to YOU, please open http://www.ScienceDaily and enjoy your novel ability to read and understand scientific news– the most reliable source of information.
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Chapter II: Feeling Good Very useful phrases We easily recognize when somebody feels good6.
Feeling good is obvious
6
I have gathered a collection of pictures of people and animals for
you to recognize easily this state. You’re free to use my website http://multiwell.ru/jealousy.html and http://multiwell.3dn.ru/ as resources for inspiration and friendly support for feeling good.
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Feeling good is the absolute norm of your qualitybeing. It’s also the quality-being of the Universe we live in, the Divine, God, Creator or any other concept that you consider as the universal truth for you. Earth itself is a paradise filled with the abundance
as
the
diversity
of
spices
and
landscapes. And only we - human-beings- are capable
of
consciously
knowing
and
understanding when we feel good.
Feeling good is the physical sensation. It is to be cultivated willingly, intentionally, purposely as the desirable and pretty natural on-line experience. Of course, it might take some time and your attention to get used to live in your healthy-being. Easy, isn’t it?
Usually, like everything good in your life, it starts with your single decision.
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Does it make any sense to you? If it does not, then you’d referred to your old unhealthy concept of future, right? Feeling good refers only to each single moment in the now. Life is living-in-the-now, i.e. on-line.
If you still don’t believe this universal truth, look at the picture below.
Touchy, isn’t it?
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Keeping this wonderful and peaceful smile on your face, pronounce7, sing or murmur this phrase several times with different intonation, pitch of voice (from very low to high and vive verse):
…until you “catch” this amazing sensation of feeling good.
Probably you already have the intensifier of your own experience in the form of:
7
“To pronounce” or “to voice” is a single act of your wiliness, while “to repeat” is nothing but a mechanical duplication of something (either your own or imposed).
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If not, you can easily add it to your experience by training.
and
The word “very” came from Latin [verax] which means “telling the truth”. The more often you pronounce very useful for you phrases, the better you feel. Why?
Your brain at feeling good Feeling good has a physical expression in your brain and body due neurohormone of oxytocin. When we have a rewarding experience, oxytocin is released in brain.
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Containing oxytocin neuron These neurons are born everyday in our brain early in the morning. The more often you feel good, being generous, nice and smiling – the more neurons are generated to make you feel good.
Oxytocin is known as the ‘love hormone’ and it:
•
facilitates sperm transport in ejaculation;
•
inhibits stress response activity;
•
oxytocin is a key player in sexual behavior, since it is involved from its start – the process of falling in love – to subsequent outcomes, i.e., off spring;
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•
oxytocin ensures genuine trust, loyalty, devotion and generosity (Zak, Stanton & Ahmadi, 2007, Zak PJ, Fakhar A , 2006);
•
mating, i.e., sexual intercourse or sexual stimulation,
releases
oxytocin
and
you
experience pleasure (Marazziti & Canale, 2004; Esch & Stefano, 2004; Kosfeld et al., 2005; Komisaruk et al., 2008).
'Feeling good' means activating the reward circuit in the brain limbic system. The reward circuit needs to be activated for us with a rewarding experience: to drink water, eat food, make love, strive for goals, take risks, feel optimistic, pet a cat, or hug loved ones. Looking forward to pleasant or exciting experience as well as dreaming about the best, ensures the production of the neurochemical dopamine and the hormone oxytocin. And what do they do? They stimulate release of the body's own 'happy pill' in the form of endorphins to give you a wonderful feeling of euphoria.
Feeling good is not only a healthy pleasant stateof-being. It opens doors to miracles to happen and
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get what you want effortlessly! When you feel good, only good things are attracted to you. Great, isn’t it?
Change happens slower on the physical plane then on intellectual. That is why “feeling good” is to be cultivated
and
intensified
so
that
favorable
substances released in brain. The more you spend, the more comes to you. For example, the more often you smile when recalling pleasant events, the more often pleasant events occur in your life. This can be done both verbally (“I’m very good at…”) and physically, when your body, hands and legs become involved.
In other words it’s time to form nice habits. These nice habits are going to please you. This in turn, makes you feel good. Because your body, Spirit, Life, Love, Universe, God, Divine, Creator – everything, your own concepts including - is really very, very friendly.
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The quickest method of feeling good If you are at home, stretch your index fingers, stand up and go around your apartment, point at every nice thing in your room, kitchen, bath-room, etc., saying: “IT FEELS GOOD”
You point at every nice thing in your room, kitchen, bath-room, etc., and say: “IT FEELS GOOD”. Joy and pleasure are filling you8
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This is how I work with depressive or anxied clients who rarely notice the objects and trifles of the real world, being self-absorbed.
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When you were a small kid, you were prohibited to touch beautiful and expensive things for the fear to destroy or break them.
This funny method has amazing results: your brain records this invaluable experience with words and actions to your own liking of a grown-up person.
Moreover, you’ll be noticing beautiful things, trifles, animals,
plants,
flowers
and
trees
in
the
surrounding environment very much like a highly professional art designer and photographer.
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Point at things which you like, and enjoy the sensation
And
be
sure,
absolutely
sure
that
neither
depression, nor anxiety will have any place in your life.
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Chapter III: New nice habits “No great thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen." — Epictetus, Greek Stoic Philosopher
Let’s begin to from and enjoy new nice habits from this moment.
Make the best decision in your life Make the best decision in your life. It’s about your high quality of life in your own understanding. It must be so complex that is going to include several pleasant things, for instance:
1. Create a novel and secret name and surname for you. This name will always symbolize the
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best of you and your own understanding of life.
2. Decide that since this moment you are going to do whatever you love, eat what you love, say things that you love about yourself, give yourself the best gifts, approve every action you undertook, praise yourself and other people that you like in public or at home.
3. Confess that forcing yourself is over. You were born for the best (and enumerate things that are really the finest for you). The longer is this list the better for your comfort. 50-100 items are not the limit.
The list of finest things for me:
1.________________________________________
2. ________________________________________
3. ________________________________________
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4. ________________________________________
100 ______________________________________
4. Write down this complex decision and check if you feel good by deciding being the bestof-you.
5. Take the responsibility for this decision, by adding a very important point: “I have the right of improving, enriching and concealing every point in favor of the best-for-me, any time9”.
6. You will re-write, improve or enrich your concept about the best-of-you, if you feel like doing it, any time.
9
Being responsible for your decisions means only one thing: you will recognize immediately what to change (improve or enrich), if something goes wrong, without reporting anybody about it.
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Start loving ‘Yourself’ Start loving ‘Yourself’. ‘Yourself’ is your Angel, preventing you from destruction, illnesses and somebody else’s intrusion into your life. ‘Yourself’ is your representation in the Loving God, Spirit, Universe, Divine or Creator. It is your life, love and success feeder.
Celebrate every little thing that makes you feeling good Celebrate every little thing that makes you feeling good. If you have no experience in celebrating, just keep
pronouncing
(singing,
murmuring)
the
phrase: “I celebrate this…” (add any good event, thought, idea, result, compliment, etc).
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Feeling good and happiness begin with one easy question:
It’s very important because celebration changes your vibration and starts calling in the good you want to experience. How does it happen?
Researchers at SUNY Downstate Medical Center have discovered a PKMzeta molecule in brain. This molecule records and preserves complex, highquality memories that provide detailed information about the experience (Serrano et al., 2008).
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PKMzeta molecule Your command “Celebrate!” after every type of pleasant and satisfying experience gives birth to a singe PKMzeta molecule in brain areas securing this experience. How many times a day must we do it to produce enough molecules to feel good?
You
can
also
use
another
command
exclamation: “I congratulate myself!”
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as
The word ‘congratulate’ came from Latin. It consists of 2 parts:
1. [con] meaning “together with” (Feeling good, Spirit, Life, Love, God, Divine, Creator) and 2. [gratulate]
meaning
“with
“willingly”, ‘to thank”.
Nice and healthy, isn’t it?
The combination of phrases:
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pleasure”,
are already serving you as markers and intensifiers of your desired experience, very much like the word “Amen” expressed after the prayer. It’s easy to keep in mind (which is outside of your body) that PKMzeta
molecules
also
record
unpleasant
experience or repetitive thoughts. The choice is yours!
Method of changing thoughts for better If you find yourself producing or issuing negative thoughts: 1. Сcommand yourself: “Stop! Think positive!”, and
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2. Сreate the best thought of your life. The best thought is about what you like or what you want. Nice and healthy thoughts are rewarding.
The principle is very simple: nice words create nice microstates, feelings and sensations and vice verse.
Experiment 3
1. Take a notepad. 2. Divide the paper into 2 columns and name the 1st ‘nice’ for healthy, happy, pleasant words. The 2nd ‘awful’ is for words denoting depressive, unhappy, sick, etc. meaning of life experience.
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3. Task for your intelligence: is to recognize the words, standing for the experience of other people. The truth is very simple. People unconsciously use words to describe their experience according to the meaning of their understanding of themselves or the world they live in.
4. Target results:
You are going to master the art of the observer in the situations which are out of
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your
control.
Observation
as
well
as
registering choice of words people use makes you absolutely detached out of painful or unpleasant situations induced by somebody else. This strategy (after some practice) will make you the King or the Queen in different social situations. The result: people will stop using awful words in your presence (see the method below).
After learning how people express their experience verbally (negatively or positively) YOU will decide if it’s good for you to deal
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with them or reject their presence in your life.
5. Can you go out to the nearest bar, restaurant or any other public place to observe people & register words? Alternatively you may turn on TV or watch some film in your computer to master the skill.
6. On your notepad you’ll be (1) either counting number of nice/awful words the chosen person uses, or (2) if you are quick in writing, you’ll fix the words.
7. Compare the columns. Make your own analysis and conclusions. Would you ever deal with those people? Would you make them your friends? Will you feel good after talking to them? What do you have in common with them?
8. Did you enjoy the process? Is it worth of repeating it and joining this intelligent observation strategy for your wellness?
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Research states the watching people (speaking, doing the high quality things) is recorded in brain like a model to follow or reject (Cross, E. et al., 2008).
Jealousy in brain Ask your question: “How about healing jealousy?” Let me illustrate and explain why social intelligence is so very important. Researchers from University of Haifa discovered that jealousy is a well develop feeling of envy and gloating10.in the game of life “Who is better: you or me?”. Do you still compete with somebody you know? Are you a participant of a rats’ race for being the best?
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http://www.sciencedaily.com /releases/2009/11/091112095038.htm
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Rats’ racing life-time marathon: “Who wins in comparisons?”
Japanese scientists identified region of the brain which controls feelings of jealousy (Takahashi et al., 2009).
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It is the same part which detects real physical pain – perhaps explaining why feeling envious of your lover's preference hurts so much. This “evil eye” spot is also associated with mental pain. The dot which makes people delight in others' misfortune – is called “schadenfreude”.
We often evaluate the self and others from social comparisons. We feel envy when the target person has superior and self-relevant characteristics. Schadenfreude occurs when envied persons fall from grace.
If you’re an envious person, you have a hard time appreciating a lot of the good things that are out there, because you’re too busy worrying about how they reflect on the self. Jealousy is a false assumption that somebody is better, sexier, and more attractive then you.
The question: “Is it worth being that kind of person?”
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So,
why
not
quitting
that
rubbish
with
competitions, social comparisons, pain, suffering, rats’ races of ‘who is the best here’ proofs?
Say: I. “Enough!” II. “I switch to the social intelligence. It’s my decision. I express my gratitude for the past which had never taught me to be the racer”. III. “Was I born to play primitive games?” IV. “I start my own game of enjoying life to all its advantages I have never experience before!” – Celebrate this decision.
Method for a Brilliantly Intelligent You Unfortunately we have to deal with unpleasant people. What is worse, all of them are too proud of their achievements. When they are, they never
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notice either you or your success (Takahashi et al., 2007). Pride makes them blind and unsympathetic. In
fact
they are
so
primitive
that
consider
themselves your boss to dictate and control you.
Is this type of people familiar to you?
Do you know what are they scared of? Quite right, they are afraid to be laughed at in public. They love long conferences and meaningless speeches. Your practice with recording nice/awful columns of words will serve you perfectly. Do you have courage and the sense of humor for a new experience?
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1. At the next conference or a business meeting, take
out
your
notepad
and
start
recording
nice/awful words voiced by your boss. The process itself is pretty funny and healthy. That is why your smile will be shining and authentic. It will surely attract attention.
We easily recognize people who position themselves as “BOSS”. They “radiate” it!
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2. The reaction will be predictable. Your boss will feel uneasy. You will be asked what you are doing. What is going to be your answer? You will answer in an innocent and serious manner: “I’m counting nice/awful (creative/ unproductive, etc) words in your
speech.
conference
It’s
room
important to
which
create
the
fill
this
business
atmosphere. It’s a sociological research. I was asked to do it.” “Would you like me to report you first before they will be published?”
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3. Who is the real King or the Queen in this situation? Isn’t it a superb beginning of your leadership?
Congratulate
yourself
for
the
repetition. It will install the vibrations of the leader in you.
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Chapter IV: The new YOU with nice habits If you are at home now there are several nice things you can do immediately to prolong this wonderful feeling of NEW YOU.
Drinks First of all prepare your favorite drink:
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A cup of coffee…
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Tea…
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A glass of wine…
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Or, just a glass of water…
The chosen liquid will inform your entire body about:
your best life decisions the new concept and super ideas about YOU novel knowledge and nice-and-healthy mood.
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Bath Prepare a luxurious bubble bath with essentials oils.
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Think about new YOU with nice habits and your secret novel name or surname. Feel a tender touch of the water in the bath, caressing your healthy skin. Take some time off to relax in a hot bath with tender music. Love yourself, your beautiful and healthy nature, your skin and loving water for driving you into the state of feeling good. To love yourself means that you are open for the Divine Love to fill you.
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While enjoying the luxurious sensation of your bath, start dreaming about the best lover in your life. It’s the qualities you are dreaming of, not the appearance. When you meet this person, you’ll recognize her or him immediately by the sensation of feeling good at their presence. Another helpful criterion is the desire to meet or see or touch this person again.
In order to fix this wonderful sensation of nice-andhealthy-being it’s necessary to organize your living and
business
physical
space
with
exquisite
attributes. They will be the source of your sexy inspiration.
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Candles Candles and candleholders are the best love and sex symbols. As they give the quickest effect of attracting candidates for your satisfying life.
A woman and a man: a cave and a …
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When you light up candles you automatically attract a lover or a loving you person. It’s a green light for the universe to deliver you what you want. It’s a sign that you are expecting miracles.
You can easily put candles even in your office
Ladies, while waiting for your true love, please, turn off calculators from your head.
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Love will never approach you in the money waiting mood. Love is free of calculations
Your living and working space of Love Look around your living room or your office. Do you still have pictures of your old lover hanging
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up? Accept that he or she is gone, and replace the old photo with an image of romance. Old pictures keep you hanging on to the past. If you wish to keep them, then place them in the east of your living room. Place only current pictures everywhere else11.
The universe/God can only bring you gifts if you have created space for the gifts to come in. Start with de-cluttering your computer of old files, old emails, and old programs. Is your voicemail filled with old calls that should be deleted? Take 20 minutes time to do this, and I'll bet the longexpected calls will come in.
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You can subscribe to Marie Diamond's Sparkle of Wisdom
newsletters at www.mariediamond.com which will create the best mood in you.
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Gifts for yourself and others Start wearing soft clothing like velvet, silks, and soft wool that feels tender to your body. Buy some new clothes or order something special to match your great personality.
Do you feel like this is the day for your success? Well, then, start right now to dress up for success, walk like a successful person, shake hands with
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confidence, smile like someone that has had their first big success: from cheek to cheek.
Jewelry Go and choose something special for the New YOU.
Jewelry likes your touching…
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… caressing and admiring…
The Master who had created it for you was inspired by beauty and love.
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Start being generous Don’t forget about people you love. Prepare gifts for them. Just remember what they want to have. It’s easy to foresee their joy of touching their favorite things.
Value their qualities, achievements and desires. Very much like you they adore freedom, the best things and being praised. How many nice words did they hear today from you?
Giving gifts and telling nice and healthy words of approval for every little thing to the beloved is the highest expression of LOVE and generosity. It’s the basic mechanism of the universe we live in.
Prepare a luxurious dinner or take your beloved
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… to a beautiful restaurant for a romantic dinner…
You can easily organize a picnic for them.
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SMS To spare mutual confuse, write a nice SMS with compliments or wishes to somebody you really care. Be sure, that person will flush with pleasure. And you certainly understand that the response may not be sent to you. Generous people never
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expect to be flattered or be thanked in return. This is how generosity starts as a high life style.
From this moment you are radiating generosity and the real holiday of love.
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Chapter V: Nice Healthy Habits for Your Body
Take a Deep Breath Long lasting unpleasant emotions (i.e. reactions to real or imaged events) and feelings (i.e. our explanations or comments of events and states) cause stress and anxiety. When your body is under stress, breathing becomes shallow. You might even notice that you hold your breath.
Researchers
at
Cedars-Sinai
Medical
Center
reported that shortness of breath was a significant predictor of death from cardiac causes, as well as death from any cause.
Taking a deep breath can release tension instantly. Oxygen immediately starts to flow to the cells. We’re absolutely healthy when oxygen is delivered
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to each cell. Have a look at the picture of a Leydig cell.
Leydig cells (red) ensure the production and release of androgens - the male hormones, thus guarantee sexual health, especially in the presence of a coquettish lady
Their population was discovered in testicles, adjacent to the seminiferous tubules. They can secrete testosterone and are often closely related to nerves of the central nervous system. It means
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that the relaxation, rest, deep breathing and friendly atmosphere keep males’ bodies in a perfect state of sexual health.
Quarrels, reprimands, suspiciousness, envy, etc., destroy peace, health, balance, wellness and sexual desire consequently.
With each deep breath energy is free to move throughout your body again. Feel your belly expand. Then you let it out let it out with a sound – Ahhhhh. Allow your shoulders to drop and feel relaxation move through your body.
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Notice how you are breathing when you are in a meeting, confronted with a challenge or nervously anticipating something.
In case you still think that your life depends on somebody else’s decision (i.e. your boss) and worry about the outcomes,
…immediately take a deep breath. Let it out and notice how you feel again.
Or,
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For gentlemen: create an image of a beautiful girl waiting for you (behind the boss’s door). – he will be silky! For ladies: create your sexual image or recall your best night of love. And enjoy the effects!
Or,
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Imagine (create) a colored diagram of your brain in a perfect state of relaxation & success at the frequency of 10HZ. What does this image remind you of?
After some practice you will not only feel more relaxed, but also more energized. Your brain gets more oxygen to think clearly and energy flows instead of being constricted or stuck. This is the simplest, quickest and most useful thing to do to reduce stress continuously throughout your day. Aila Accad, known as the “De-Stress Expert’ offers
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more effective procedures to enter the state of comfort12.
Important note! Some people think that their “inner world” exists in their heads or bodies. It’s a big mistake! Ideas, consciousness, understanding, “deep knowledge” and the world itself – everything – are in the outer space. They exist in the form of hidden possibilities, like invisible molecules of oxygen. We know about them but never notice due their
tiny
size.
That’s
why
practicing
deep
breathing is important to body cells, liquids and blood.
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www.ailaspeaks.com THE DE-STRESS TOOLBOX™ to get rid of stress finally.
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Stretching Physically we are very much like mammals. Animals as you noticed do nothing special to be loved or to be sexy. They are too lazy to do anything against their nature. Instead, they stretch regularly.
Arctic foxes stretch
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Horses stretch
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Wolves stretch
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Polar bears stretch
And red foxes also stretch
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So, next time you decide to think of “sexuality” or “being sexy”, your body will be easily stretching and you’ll find yourself recalling the image of a fluffy animal radiating a natural power of life.
Isn’t it great?
When you look at this cat, you immediately know: “It’s physically sexy”. Cats don’t care what other cats would say, right?
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Did you know that sex chromosomes are fluffy like fur coats of animals you’ve seen above?
Sex chromosomes
Chromosomes are compact strands of DNA that are contained in our cells. Normally, human cells have 46 chromosomes in each cell -- 23 from the egg of the mother and 23 from the sperm of the father. Two of these 46 chromosomes are called "sex chromosomes." These sex chromosomes are either an X or a Y. Males have an X chromosome (inherited from the mother) and a Y chromosome (from the father). Females have two copies of an X
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chromosome (one from the mother and one from the father)13.
Does this scientifically proved information make sense to you? Then you need regular stretching too to keep a good and sexually healthy form. Chromosomes like body cells need breathing too.
Take a moment to stand up and stretch. A good stretch decreases stress and increases energy. Energy can become stagnant from sitting too long at your desk or in front of the computer or TV.
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Learn more at Sex Chromosomes
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It’s easy to stretch in your office
All of your muscles can use stretching from time to time. Stretch your fingers, arms, wrists, ankles, legs, toes, waist, neck and spine.
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You may practice it on the floor
… or, doing like this
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… or, lock the door of your office for several minutes and stretch on the desk
The small investment of a moment or two stretching will pay off in reduced stress, clearer thinking and increased productivity.
Forget about forcing yourself!
Scientists from the McKnight Brain Institute of the University of Florida say that moderately active animals have healthier DNA and more healthy brain cells than their less active counterparts. Learning
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new concepts by entertaining and regular light exercise (like stretching or a daily 30-minute walk) keep your brain and body young.
So it’s better not to force yourself physically. Forcing yourself for intensive physical activities as well as the lack of exercise and new experiences (intellectual
learning
including)
can
lead
to
oxidative damage in the brain. And oxidative damage in the brain is believed to be a natural consequence of aging and a contributor to memory loss. In addition, increased oxidative damage has been implicated in the loss of brain cells that is associated
with
Alzheimer's
disease
and
Parkinson's disease.
For your comfort and fun we had developed the animated supportive version of this book as a free nice gift14.
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Mirror neurons, actions and humor We introduced amusing animations on a very serious purpose. Viewing funny cartoons and animations which illustrate complex concepts, phenomena and facts produces a favorable effect on brain and body.
Several minutes of watching these nice personages doing the exercises will urge your legs or body do the same.
It happens due to the existence of mirror neurons in brain. These neurons allow us to synchronize with words, meanings, jesters, face expressions, emotions, actions, intentions and feelings of other people, animations & actors including (Rizzolatti et al., 2004).
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In response to watching somebody else’s (sport) activities, mirror neurons start ‘firing” simultaneously with the ‘doer” (red area within the green circle). In other words, when you watch somebody doing the exercise, your brain becomes active to do light exercise and be healthy, thanks to mirror neurons activation.
Humor activates not only brain centers responsible for the rewarding feelings that follow such events as monetary gain, cocaine use and romantic love, but highly intellectual cognition areas (Reiss et al., 2003; Esch & Stefano, 2004).
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Imaging study showed that humor activates the areas of the brain involved in language processing and working memory (keeping track of recent events), as well as the part of the brain that generates rewarding feelings in response to new experiences. The activation of the reward center, not only signals the presence of something pleasant, but that the pleasure was unexpected. This discovery has an invaluable significance for our every life. When we learn to color specific and rather unpleasant situations with humor, our brain lightens
up
with
pleasure.
And
this
novel
experience (coloring situations with humor) is rewarded by nature by satisfaction due to the release of chemicals both in brain and body. Satisfaction in its turn shares the same mechanism with orgasm and is always resulting in relaxation. Stress disappears because pleasure chemicals are released with fun and humor!
Suppressing and inhibiting emotions causes longterm
sympathetic
activation
and
leads
cardiovascular disease (Mauss & Gross, 2002).
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to
So laughing at funny people-concepts of this pleasant and healthy project releases your tension, Smile and congratulate yourself with a nice skill to laugh at concepts. It’s the highest level of intelligence.
Have a Hug While you are in a stretching mood, stretch your arms out in front of you, wrap them around your body and give yourself a big hug. Feel the warmth of your arms across your heart and feel the caress of your hands. You deserve to feel appreciated.
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Feel the physical support Often stress comes from the perception that you are alone and unsupported.
Changing that
perception can change your stress in an instant. Instead of “perception” use “LOVE RECEPTION” every moment of your life.
Start by feeling the ground under your feet. Feel the support of the earth beneath you. Feel the support of the chair you're sitting in, the seat under your bottom and the back meeting your back.
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Touch and inhale flowers. They are made of pure Love
Take a breath and realize the support of the atmosphere in providing the oxygen you need to stay alive.
Did you know that energy of air all around us is a pure energy of LOVE?
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Express your gratitude for every beautiful thing you’ve bought on your own choice! These things are in your house, office, your car. They are pieces of clothes you’re wearing right now, lovely and inspiring pictures in your computer, mobile phone or your desk.
For several seconds fix your eyes on each of your favorite objects with admiration and gratitude to your excellent taste. Brains response to visual stimuli (our favorite things) helps us to focus on what we should see, rather than all there is to see. Human brain is organized into "smart" efficient networks.
Appreciating your own choice leads to satisfaction. Satisfaction in its turn is a mini orgasm in your brain. Self-approval stimulates the release of the body's own 'happy pill' in the form of endorphins to give a wonderful feeling of euphoria.
So, the support is all around you.
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Chapter VI: Your intelligent entertainment skills
Playing with images People in jealousy are ridiculously serious. Enjoy yourself by sticking smiles on people’s backs, chests and foreheads:
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Stick a smile to your boss’ (your unfaithful lover) forehead. Do it dozens of time during a day, when you go to sleep and wake up with funny image of your creation
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Do you remember about the PKMzeta molecule in your brain? This molecule will record and preserve this funny, healthy and a high-quality experience.
These healthy tricks bring forward amazing results. Serious people (like your boss, or the person you are jealous of) start changing for better! The more often you play with images of people and filling them with humor, the better they feel physically. It’s a mystery, but the method works!
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And what is more important - YOU yourself become a humorous-being. Stick a smile at your own forehead, back, shoulders or places that physically hurt or ache. Wear this smile all day long. Smiling is healing. It’s the basis of the nice and sexy charisma!
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She is unfaithful, but you are healthy with humor.
When you are radiating humor you are a generousbeing. Generous people are leaders with authentic charisma. It’s the most desirable type of people in
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every society. Leaders with a well developed sense of humor are adored. This shining skill attracts people like magnet.
The practical use of creating images Researchers at the Salk’s Systems Neurobiology Laboratories discovered15 that specific types of inhibitory (”no”) neurons in the visual cortex of brain are wired to, and "talk" with, discrete excitatory (“go”) neurons. This "go-no" kind of interaction or "conversation" between neurons is necessary keep the right balance of chemical signals, often excludes surrounding neurons. The inhibitory neurons are not just brakes, they can also be used to steer and re-direct our visual attention
to
more
positive
things
of
the
surrounding environment.
When
we
select
what
to
notice,
inhibitory
responses in the visual cortex help us to focus on 15
Salk Institute. Brains response to visual stimuli helps us to
focus on what we should see, rather than all there is to see
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what we want to see, rather than all there is to see. Jealous people are known to create big & detailed mental pictures of their partners’ infidelity. As the result, they suffer intensively. It was discovered that brain as does not distinguish between imagery and real objects (Pearson et al., 2008)
Creating healthy, pleasant and satisfying images in the form of big pictures or even films with you as a star is pretty rewarding. Then you step into your creation and enjoy the effects. This healthy process is the sort of meditation. Meditation or guided
visualization
is
much
better
then
antidepressant drugs which reduce sexuality. The more often you practice it the healthier you become.
Together with frequent states of feeling good there appears another prize. The quality of relations improves! It always happens if there is love between you or your partner, spouse or lover.
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Research from UC San Diego16 explains us the reason for such a desirable outcome. “Keeping your eye on the right prize” i.e. your dream of ideal relations activates regions of the brain implicated in anticipating and tracking rewards. Rewarding images alter neural activation in many areas of the human
visual
system
which
responds
more
strongly to objects of value.
Sometimes other miracles happen. You attract a soul-mate. Or you become so strong that you effortlessly part with a person who no longer satisfies you.
Have you lit up candles?
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Having Your Eye on The Prize - Science News - redOrbit
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Chapter VII: Creation "To a woman the first kiss is just the end of the beginning; to a man it's the beginning of the end." —Helen Rowland
Structure of jealousy Like any other unpleasant emotional state, jealousy is nothing but a well-formed skill. It functions in the automatic regime, and is characterized by the absence of flexibility. This is how it works.
1. People create images of infidelity in details 2. These magnified in size images or even imagined films trigger an acute and long lasting emotion - SUFFERING 3. Between
these
skills
there’s
a
process which repeats many times.
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regular
In other words: you imagine the act of infidelity and suffer. It’s clear, is it not?
Jealousy is a self imposed black magic which controls our life against our will.
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Body and mind are systems In his brilliant book “Pro-fusion: Creating a Life of Abundance with Neuro Linguistic Programming and Energy Work”17 Dr. Richard Bolstad explains the principle of why unhappy events and painful memories keep returning to us.
Body and mind are one system; everything that happens in the body affects the mind, everything that happens in the mind affects the body. When the body releases adrenalin, the mind experiences a strong emotion; and when the mind experiences certain strong emotions, adrenalin is released. Those are just two ways of describing the same event (Bolstad & Hamblett, 2001).
What we call thinking, feeling and perceiving are processes which happen in our nervous system, a network of nerve cells (neurons) spread throughout the body.
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www.transformations.net.nz
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Populations of neurons in cortex. Beautiful, isn’t it?
Neurons vary from short cells in the brain, measuring a fraction of a centimetre across, to cells over a metre long which connect the outer edges of the body to the central brain and spine. The brain, the centre of the nervous system, has 100 billion or so neurons.
When any experience occurs in our life, new neural networks are laid down to record that event and its meaning. To create these networks, the neurons
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grow an array of new dendrites (connections to other neurons). Each neuron has up to 20,000 dendrites (Bolstad & Hamblett, 2001).
Connections between neurons
Messages
are
passed
through
such
neural
networks by “information substances” – chemicals such
as
adrenaline
and
dopamine.
Different
amounts of these chemicals are present in different emotional states.
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Chemicals are released in synapses – a cleft between neurons endings - in response to our reaction to our thoughts, events and imagery experience
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Release of a substance (=neurotransmitter) between 2 neurons occurs like mini-orgasm
The particular mixture of chemicals present when a neural network is laid down must be recreated for the neural network to be fully re-activated. This means that when you get back into the state of mind you were in originally, you remember all the things you learned at that time. Memory is “statedependant” (Bolstad & Hamblett, 2001).
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Stanford University researchers discovered that depressed people avoid thinking about desired future as well as creating rewarding images. They are scared of being punished for pleasure(!).
A well-formed habit of panic as a conflict of interests
(rewarding
pleasant
experience
vs.
negative forecast as suffering) involves difficulties in the processing of positive information in brain. Scientists
concluded
that
some
forms
of
depression might be experienced, not as the absence of pleasure, but as the ever-present presence of emotional pain, disappointment, or frustration (Knutson & al., 2008).
Obviously, it explains why people “create” dreadful images. Using high-tech brain scans psychologists at Washington University found in 2007 that your ability to envision the future does in fact goes hand-in-hand with remembering the past. Most of us practice ‘mental time travel’ - the ability to take thoughts about ourselves and project them either into the past or into the future.
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Another study conducted in 2007 by a team of researchers from the New York University revealed that imagined positive future events relative to negative ones, give rise to optimism.
The question: “What do we project into the future”? •
Happiness?
•
Love?
•
Desirable relations?
•
Generosity?
•
Sexuality?
Do you remember that your future is formed by your thoughts and concepts every moment-in-thenow? Your emotions and feelings of: •
excitement
•
pleasure
•
feeling good, nice and sexy,
•
desire
•
loathing
•
resentment
•
anger, etc.,
are recorded as the structure of your experience.
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The choice is yours.
Body and mind are one system. Systems theory was developed by theorists such as mathematician Norbert Wiener (Cybernetics, 1948), and biologist Ludwig von Bertalanffy (General Systems Theory, 1968), as a way of explaining the structure of communication and control in both machines and living animals.
Any living system has parts (subsystems), and changes in any one part will affect the whole system.
Because of this, the part of the system
with the most flexibility (the most ability to change) will control the system.
Every system can be understood as having inputs (things that get into it), processes that happen in it, and outputs (things produced by the system) (Bolstad & Hamblett, 2001).
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In case with images of infidelity, people always would get the same result – sufferings, until you decide to change the contents of the habit and get what you want - images with lovely experience.
You can form a nice new habit or creating images of mutual love, excellence, sexuality, etc
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With this nice new habit, the system will give you what
you
want:
happiness,
pleasure
and
satisfaction.
Easy, is it not?
A nice and sexy method with imagination Now we shall use the habit of creating painful images of infidelity and fill it with contrary, i.e. desirable contents.
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For gentlemen Suppose you suspect that your wife (girl-friend) is unfaithful.
It’s you, concerned, displeased with your own assumptions about infidelity
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In this state your brain regions involved in sexual/aggressive behaviors are over-activated (Takahashi et al., 2006). It’s blind fury and it needs pouring out in a healthy sexual expression.
The best way to express it is to confess your healthy maleness.
Next, you express gratitude for a stunning chance of becoming better: filled with humor, charisma, charm, generosity, being nice and sexy. It’s possible because our thoughts and imagination create our next experience, our next moment. This is a rule18.
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Then you start a process of creation by inserting your own, desired contents in your imagination.
It’s her, doing everything for you, waiting for your love, meeting your own desires and requirements in intimacy.
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She is always for you
Train it as many times as needed until the fillings of your daydreams become automatic. It is done in 2 steps as you create:
1. your blank imagination screen ⇒ screen with desirable contents which you enjoy as much as you like. 2. the screen with desirable contents ⇒ blank screen
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Blanc (5 seconds) ↔nice image (several minutes) and enjoy it
Quick repetition of these 2 steps will form a nice and healthy sexy habit.
Your novel knowledge and understanding must be celebrated!
We have modeled and animated this method for you just to support you in feeling good, nice and
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sexy19.
Why
synchronize
animations? with
what
It’s
we
because
like
or
we
consider
important.
In
case
you
decide
to
get
personal
recommendations based on you “problem”, fears and other aspects of unpleasant experience, send us an email with your picture and a short
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description of what you want. And you will get your CD (or a USB-disc) done especially for you.
For ladies Ladies are to be equipped with knowledge of the same origin as the universal truth like: “water is always wet”. Without this knowledge happiness is impossible.
The strongest males spread their seed near and far, to their evolutionary benefit. And so, dear ladies, men evolved a hard-wired brain "module" that throws them into a jealous rage over sexual infidelity but not emotional infidelity like most of you experience.
Women evolved a brain module that makes them deeply jealous over emotional infidelity but blaze toward the sexual kind. Research states that men are more likely to believe that women have sex when in love. Women believe that men have sex even when they are not in love (Whitty et al., 2008).
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You will be surprised, but women also get sexually aroused at viewing females’ nude bodies. The synchronization also happens when we watch films about romantic love, sex, porno, dancing actresses in sexy roles, etc. It happens to even “highly moral” people who claim that they dislike shows.
Marco Iacoboni and his colleagues from the UCLA Brain Mapping Center investigated how brain responds to commercials. They discovered the strong disconnect that can be seen between what people say and what their brain activity seem to suggest.
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For instance, female subjects may give verbally very low ‘grades’ to ads using actresses in sexy roles, but their mirror neuron areas were firing out like crazy when they sexy girls bodies were dancing!
What does it mean? It means that we had learned to suppress sexual desires. Irrelevant to our prohibition to experience the best sensations Nature prepared for us, our brain still reacts to erotic or love events.
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Some
ladies
are
proud
of
their
skills
in
housekeeping. This alone is not enough for a happy marriage. Sexuality is highly demanding for the mutual satisfaction. Creating sexy images is a nice
and
helpful
strategy
to
improve
your
relationship.
It’s time to learn and create mental imagery to your satisfaction. Are you capable to notice in what area of your room you create the images of infidelity? This place is very important. You will use it as “the mental screen” for healthy imaginative experience to your liking and feeling good.
If you find out that you create your mental “pictures” or “films” in the air, confess that walls are better. Choose the wall in front of you as a “mental” screen. You will use it to ‘project’ your dreams in ‘pictures’ of ‘films’ about yourself and your new and nice image.
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The more often you create the desirable sexy image of you, the quicker this quality spreads in your body!
For this purpose, you can also create your beautiful image on the mirror surface without approaching it.
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It is also easy and effective to create images of happiness in the sky.
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When you are skilled at creating detailed images of how your beloved caresses another woman etc., you might like the following:
1. Clear your mental “screen” (with details of infidelity) using your hands until it is blank.
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Blank imaginary screen
2. Fill in the space (i.e. the empty screen) with preferred pictures: YOU and HIM in all the pleasing you details.
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Fill in the imaginary screen with the events you prefer
3. Create as many satisfying “films” or mental pictures as you like. Enjoy both the process of creation and the result. You will run your own films any moment YOU prefer. For that reason we have created and animated practical method of filling “blanks” with erotic contents on CD.
4. If you can not create films or pictures but are suspicious about infidelity, write romantic and erotic
stories
about
YOU
and
HIM.
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Males’
physiology needs healthy expression through sex experience of orgasm. They need more then that old-fashioned entertainment “Do you love me?”
5. when you find yourself viewing “old films” of infidelity, say: “STOP!” clear the screen and immediately substitute the unpleasant stuff into your creation with new details. Celebrate your fantastic skills after each act of creation.
The reason of your “old creation of infidelity” skill with numerous details is very simple. You were not satisfied as a woman. You had no knowledge about sexy YOU in practical implementation. As the result, your fairy or magic energy of creation was serving you in the wrong way. Never please males
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as a faithful and obedient servant. You are despised for that! Celebrate this knowledge.
I consulted hundreds of people. All of them were displeased with the absence of “Real Love” and satisfying intimate relations, no matter what kind of problems they came to solve.
I had even to develop the method of successful transition from homo to hetero sex orientation for people who had wished it.
Below are some other ideas about creating beloved images of lovely relations everywhere. You can easily project your dreams:
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… on buildings
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…or on the street walls
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… or your family places
Dream, create most wanted pictures hundreds of times a day, even several seconds of healthy imagination contribute to success.
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As an expert in psychology of wellness, success and pleasure, I invite you to use my website as the resource for your friendly support and inspiration.
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Chapter VIII: The Love Formula Life is love in action. Michael Bernard Beckwith
We learn by entertaining As human beings we need certainty about healthy and desired outcomes or results, comfort and safety.
If
we
don’t
use
and
develop
out
intellectuality, we blindly believe other people’s personal truth. In this meaning we act and think as social animals guided by “authorities” imposed to us. The reason for your success in healing jealousy is explained by a 3 stage process of learning that had been put at the basis of this book (Losanov, 1970):
Synthesis - Analysis - Synthesis1 Where,
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I. Synthesis
is acquaintance & learning about new
concepts,
and
scientific
research;
II. Analysis
is a process: reflection, thinking, details
and
concepts
conscious
or
correction,
training
analysis,
unconscious in
use
and
application of a novel principle (method, strategy, information) in life contexts and of course, the act of your creation of what you want;
III.
is an enriched understanding, new
Synthesis1
experience,
skills
and
desirable
outcome or the expected result, satisfaction, a peaceful state of mind.
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The Nature of Love
Who has created these magnificent human cells? What keeps them alive and healthy functioning within your body systems? Who is the owner?
Did you find the answers? Usually we use the most suitable concepts to answer these and other questions. Each of us has so many worlds. Their
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number corresponds to the number of notions standing behind the words we know and use.
Let’s take the notion “home”. How many concepts and other words are attached to it?
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How many concepts and other words are attached to it? - Plenty!
Draw your own diagram about your concept of “home”. It is very rich, isn’t it?
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Now light up the candle you have bought. It will intensify your love and sex experience and enjoy the space you created for your satisfying-being.
Has your concept of “home” got enriched by you? Sure. What is the physical space of your room filled with now? – Quite right! You have colored it with the vibrations and quality of love and sexuality. Who has created this atmosphere? – YOU!
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Isn’t it nice and easy to create the desirable atmosphere and qualities? What vibrations is your body radiating now?
The magical circle Now when you are radiating love and sexuality, draw a circle and put the word “LOVE” in the center. You can certainly use the paper. But you can use your feet to do the same on the floor! It’s much stronger. The Magical Circle mystic ritual will “attach” your body to your intellectual experience. This is how to do it.
1. Draw a circle on the floor. 2. Light a candle. 3. Charge it with love and put it in the center of the circle.
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4. Walk around the central circle, step by step. 5. Name a thing (people, event, dream, idea, desire) you love. 6. Celebrate it. 7. Move further.
Love circle
How many things do you love? What happened to the atmosphere of you room? Did it fill with your Love? What happened to you? Do you feel high,
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nice and healthy? Does it mean that you love more yourself
then
you
expect
to
be
loved
by
somebody?
Your own concept of Love So, what is your own concept of LOVE?
My concept of LOVE is that LIFE and LOVE are equal to each other. They are one inseparable unit.
Each of us has a certain concept of LOVE. Take a sheet of paper and write down your definition of “love”.
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Unsatisfied with your definition? Then open a dictionary
and
enrich
your
own
definition.
Satisfied? I wasn’t, because Love is more than any definition. Love is a mystery. Love is a high quality of life. Since I use systematic approach on my abstract level of being, I define love and life by a nice and healthy formula:
In case it co-insides with your meaning of love and life you are free to use it. Dr. Richard Bolstad from New Zealand wrote a beautiful book about love, spirituality and understanding “love” in different religious traditions (Bolstad, 2003)20. You are free to download the 2nd chapter of this book from my website as the gift from Richard - one of the most intelligent and generous human-beings I have ever met in my life. The “Integration” book will satisfy 20
Dr Richard Bolstad. Integration: NLP and Spirituality. Christchurch, NZ, 2003. http:/www.transformations.net.nz/ I have translated this book into Russian and illustrated it. You nd can download the 2 chapter at: http://multiwell.ru/jealousy.html
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your curiosity and will guide you elegantly to experience love.
The aim of the present book is to supply you with the Love Formula and heal you from jealousy. I remind you that I had developed this formula for myself
to
jump
from
jealousy
and
create
atmosphere of love and comfort at home. Then it will help you. If I find myself comparing me and another woman, I learned to say: “Stop! There are some qualities I have to develop to become better”. This is how the improvement occurs.
The power of abstract concepts in your life After you have created your own concept of LOVE, which you are going to enrich every single day, there is a very important thing you’ve got to know. Life becomes filled with high quality after abstract concepts are formed about certain things.
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Abstract
concepts
and
decision-making
are
recorded in the frontal cortex of the human brain (Badre et al., 2009).
This
area
controls
decision-making
along
a
continuum from abstract to concrete, from front to back. Abstract decisions about action take place in the front of the frontal lobe; the back portion controls the capacity for concrete decisions, and the progression from front to back form a gradient from abstract to concrete.
Without abstract concepts your thoughts and behavior are chaotic!
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The Love Formula Now you understand that jealousy occurred due to the lack of flexibility, self-confidence and the subjective feeling of “being loved”. So if some qualities
are
missing,
then
most
perfect,
they
should
be
developed.
Which
is
the
flexible,
steady
substance on Earth? - Water. Its formula is H 20. Graphically it can be presented like:
Formula of water
Easy, isn’t it? Now, let’s fill its components with qualities, corresponding to comfort and stable health. The qualities of its parts correspond to:
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Quality of parts
And finally, insert your name in the middle, supported by love from the two sides:
Comforting formula
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Do it as many times as possible: in the morning right after awakening, during the day and before going to sleep. Usually it takes from 2 to 5 days to regain self-confidence and state of well-being.
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Dance and sing with the Love Formula
Add
different
desirable
qualities
(not
well
developed in you) into the Love Formula and train, train, train, until each of this quality becomes your nice and healthy habit.
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The importance of training and repetition Research indicates that words paint concepts in our minds21. Although processing of visual and auditory
information
separate
pathways,
occur the
along
visual
completely
and
auditory
processing routes converge to end up firing the same single neurons.
Concepts are encoded even by single neuron in a very abstract way: a pleasant and meaningful picture can evoke both written and spoken texts (i.e. organized around the novel concept of love). Brain is capable to create a high level of abstraction, which is important for perception and memory formation given that we tend to remember abstract concepts and forget irrelevant details.
21
University of Leicester (2009, July 26). Oprah, Luke
Skywalker And Maradona: New Study Investigates How Our Brains Respond To Them. ScienceDaily.
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The key words become attractors or central cores for the enriched understanding of the world and YOU.
In case of healing acute emotional states “LOVE” is the
word-attractor.
The
repetition
of
words-
concepts secures the flexible stability and a healthy balance.
“LOVE” is a word-concept attractor
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Recent research discovered that newly created neurons in adult brain listen before they talk22. Newly born neurons rely on signals from distant brain regions to regulate their maturation and survival before they can communicate with existing neighboring cells.
Brain cells from different areas talk to each other to provide information to the fresh cells, preventing them from disturbing ongoing functions until the cells are mature. This process lasts for days and weeks until they integrate into existing networks. In our case this mechanism easily serves you as the basis of a motivating power in repeating the Love Formula.
It was also discovered that individuals with low self-esteem actually felt worse about themselves after repeating positive self-statements, like: "I am
22
The Journal of Neuroscience 27: 9951-9961 (October 2007 Yale University (2007, November 1). New Brain Cells Listen Before They Talk. ScienceDaily. brain%20mechanisms/New%20Brain%20Cells%20Listen%20B efore%20They%20Talk.htm
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a
lovable
person"
(Wood
et
al.,
2009)23.
Paradoxically, low self-esteem individuals' moods fared better when they were allowed to have negative thoughts than when they were asked to focus
exclusively
on
affirmative
thoughts.
Unreasonably positive self-statements, such as "I accept
myself
completely,"
can
provoke
contradictory thoughts in individuals with low selfesteem.
The Love Formula shifts your attention to the abstract level of being as well as consciousness, which is healing by itself.
When my clients and students at the university are displayed photos of human cells accompanied by explanation how Nature takes care of their body and its tissues, they feel relaxed and fascinated. Together with the discussed Love Formula this method allows you to stay open to LOVE and attract it to your being. 23
Wood et al. Positive Self-Statements: Power for Some, Peril for Others. Psychological Science, 2009; DOI: 10.1111/j.14679280.2009.02370.x
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A newly born dopamine neuron learns about your existing priorities in pleasure. How good are you already at creating nice and satisfying images of your lovemaking, dating, kissing and on, on, on?
Brain and new experience Meaningful and personally obtained information causes a rewiring in the brain, or a growth of new connections within seconds24. 24
McGovern Institute For Brain Research, Massachusetts Institute Of Technology (MIT) (2009, July 30). Adult Brain Can Change Within Seconds. ScienceDaily. http://www.sciencedaily.com /releases/2009/07/090714203442.htm
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Moreover
brain
cells
may
only
learn
from
experience when we do something right for ourselves and not when we fail25. Brain cells keep track of whether recent behaviors were successful or not.
The prefrontal cortex (PFC) orchestrates thoughts and actions in accordance with internal goals while the basal ganglia are associated with motor control,
cognition and
emotions.
Both
areas
extensively connected with each other and with the rest of the brain, are thought to help us learn abstract associations by generating brief neural signals when a response is correct or incorrect (von Duijvenvoorde et al., 2008).
25
Massachusetts Institute of Technology (2009, July 29). Why We Learn More From Our Successes Than Our Failures. http://www.sciencedaily.com ScienceDaily. /releases/2009/07/090729121557.htm
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PFC & Basal Ganglia which simultaneously lighten up to record the best experience in your life, with pleasure
In case of rewarding experience (feeling good, being loved) or success single neurons in both areas
convey
strong,
sustained
outcome
information for 4 to 6 seconds, spanning the entire time frame between trials. This principle explains why people like to repeat rewarding actions, sing favorite songs, meet friends, hear only good things
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about themselves and keep urging other people to make compliments to them.
It is widely known among neuroscientists that the brain perceives information before it reaches a person’s
awareness.
Research
indicates
that
neurons in the adult brain can remodel their connections in response26.
The brain rewires itself following an experience. The research shows that this process of creation, testing, and reconfiguring of brain circuits takes place on a scale of just hours, suggesting that the brain is evolving considerably even during the course of a single day27.
It was discovered that over the course of just a few hours, connections are formed and re-formed many 26
Massachusetts Institute of Technology (2008, November 27). Adult Brain Neurons Can Remodel Connections. http://www.sciencedaily.com ScienceDaily. /releases/2008/11/081124174909.htm 27
Ecole Polytechnique Fédérale de Lausanne (2006, August 15). Rewiring The Mammalian Brain: Neurons Make Fickle http://www.sciencedaily.com Friends. ScienceDaily. /releases/2006/08/060814133621.htm
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times. The circuitry of the brain is like a social network where neurons are like people, directly linked to only a few other people. This finding indicates that the brain is constantly switching alliances and linking with new circles of "friends" to better process information.
With
a
strong
new
experience,
the
brain
accelerates its reconfiguration process, allowing new
connections
to
be
made,
tested,
and
strengthened, and weaker ones removed so that the brain is quickly better adapted to the new situation.
This continual rewiring of the microcircuitry of the brain is like a Darwinian evolutionary process, where a new experience triggers a burst of new connections between neurons, and only the fittest connections survive.
The discovered mechanisms of brain plasticity equip us with a very useful knowledge: novel experience is to be trained for healthy use in life contexts. For that reason there were developed and
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animated very intimate multimedia methods for you to create healthy sexuality.
Enjoy them and the NEW YOU!
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Chapter IX: Conclusions You write conclusions yourself. It’s your life! One thing is obvious: your intelligence is enriched through novel concepts in this book.
Draw the diagram on paper and near the colored circles add the concepts from this book that enriched your understanding
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You have become an expert in healing jealousy. One day you will cure another person. It is a real pleasure
to
assist
somebody
in
acquiring
happiness. Happiness is nothing but feeling good, nice and healthy.
The Secret of Love & Sexuality is yours. When you decide to create any quality to make your life a fantastic adventure, apply the Love Formula.
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Fill its components with desired features, practice it for 2-5 days and you get what you want.
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You fill in components of the Love Formula with desired qualities and repeat, repeat and repeat, until the quality becomes yours:
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Gratitude I am grateful for your attention. While writing this book for you, I have become better, healthier, sexier, younger and happier. There is a nice method of how to become youthful and healthy even though you are over 40. If you wait for another book, I’ll open you this secret.
Thank you, because I love you and I have never have had so many friends like you before!
Natalia Levis-Fox
29th of July, 2010 Email:
[email protected] http://multiwell.ru/jealousy.html
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